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Supreme Kids Mag 2023-05-26 09:52:38

Parenting

PARENTING

Parenting implies child rearing, and child nurturing, in fact, it's all processes involved in grooming a child to be useful to you and the society at large.

Parenting is like a pottery house where the potter (Parents) takes the clay (The Child) and makes it into something else he desired. The manner and process in which the clay is molded will be determined by the outcome.

God gave parents the responsibility of raising kids that are mentally strong, well-to-do, successful, and well-rounded because kids are not born with manuals, we have different ways of parenting.

Diana Baumrind, a developmental psychologist, and Stanford researchers Eleanor Maccoby and John Martin outlined 4 parenting styles.

Each parenting style has different effects on children's behavior and can be identified by certain characteristics, as well as degrees of responsiveness (the extent to which parents are warm and sensitive to their children's needs) and demandingness (the extent of control parents put on their children in an attempt to influence their behavior).



1. The Permissive Parent

Common traits:

i. High responsiveness, low demandingness

ii. Communicates openly and usually lets their kids decide for themselves, rather than giving direction

iii. Rules and expectations are either not set or rarely enforced

iv. Typically goes to great lengths to keep their kids happy, sometimes at their own expense

Permissive parents are likelier to take on a friendship role, rather than a parenting role, with their kids. They prefer to avoid conflict and will often acquiesce to their children's pleas at the first sign of distress. These parents mostly allow their kids to do what they want and offer limited guidance or direction.

2. The Authoritative Parent

Common traits:

i. High responsiveness, high demandingness

ii. Sets clear rules and expectations for their kids while practicing flexibility and understanding

iii. Communicates frequently; they listen to and take into consideration their children's thoughts, feelings, and opinions

iv. Often struggles with their own self-esteem issues and has a hard time forming close relationships


Authoritative parents are nurturing, supportive, and often in tune with their children's needs. They guide their children through open and honest discussions to teach values and reasoning. Kids who have authoritative parents tend to be self-disciplined and can think for themselves.

 

3. The Neglectful Parent

Common traits:

i. Low responsiveness, low demandingness

ii. Let their kids mostly fend for themselves, perhaps because they are indifferent to their needs or are uninvolved/overwhelmed with other things

iii. Offers little nurturance, guidance, and attention

iv. Allows natural consequences to occur (e.g., kid fails quiz when they didn't study), but uses those opportunities to help their kids reflect and learn


Sometimes referred to as uninvolved parenting, this style is exemplified by an overall sense of indifference. Neglectful parents have limited engagement with their children and rarely implement rules. They can also be seen as cold and uncaring — but not always intentionally, as they are often struggling with their own issues.

4. The Authoritarian Parent

Common traits:

i. High demandingness, low responsiveness

ii. Enforces strict rules with little consideration of their kid's feelings or social-emotional and behavioral needs

iii. Often says "because I said so" when their kid questions the reasons behind a rule or consequence

iv. Communication is primarily one-way — from parent to child


This rigid parenting style uses stern discipline, often justified as "tough love." In an attempt to be in full control, authoritarian parents often talk to their children without wanting input or feedback.